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If you decide to do nothing about growing wiser, growing stronger, becoming more balanced, and making better choices, you have gloriously wasted this much of your time. The only way you can anticipate better results next time is if you do something different from what you did last time. And it is in your own power of choice to do something different next time. All good things we learn to do take practice and persistence. It is our sincere desire that you take matters into your own hands to learn as much about yourself as it is possible to learn by being honest with yourself. Many people could name more parts of their car than they could name parts of their own character. It does not have to be that way any longer. You can become a character expert about your own character. To fail in this is to fail to know your own self, and in this regard, failure is not an option! If you don't know your own self, who else can? How could you possibly establish true intimacy in your relationships, which is based upon your true self. When you first looked at the Score Chart, were you surprised to see which qualities are at the top of your genuine character qualities? Those are your best genuine strengths. Did you happen to notice which ones are at the bottom of the genuine qualities list? Were you happy about what you saw? Those are the qualities that you lack the most. Did you see some things that you lack that you would like to have? You can have it by choosing it, and by practicing it. Did you notice which counterfeit qualities are at the top of the Score Chart? Remember, the ones at the top of that list are the counterfeit qualities that you use in a strong way. Were you happy about what you saw on the top of the list? Would you like to make a better plan for next time not to use those qualities? Who was harmed by it? Who was insulted by it? Who was injured by it? Was it your own self? Or was it some other person? Was it a friend or stranger? Was it your boss or your employee or your co-worker? Was it your father? Was it your mother? Your sister or brother? Your husband or wife? Your son or daughter? Perhaps it was your neighbor, the clerk at the store, or the driver in the next car! There is an extremely high chance that whatever counterfeits are at the top of your Score Chart are the ones causing the most conflict for you in your life. The ones at the top of this list are a good place to start. Learning about them is where you begin. You will learn about them by clicking on the name of the quality on the Score Chart page and following it to the character profiles to read the definitions. On the Diagnosis Tool, there are two things of concern for you to identify. The color chart has 19 colors that range from red on the top, to blue on the bottom. Okay, please pay attention! Stand up and stretch! Go get a drink of water. Do ten toe touches to get the blood circulating in your brain, then sit back down at read the following sentence at least three times. Not this sentence, the next one... but are you alert? Because you need not to miss this next sentence: One: The most important qualities to first identify are the highest and the lowest on the color chart. Two: The most important qualities to first identify are the highest and the lowest on the color chart. Three: The most important qualities to first identify are the highest and the lowest on the color chart. Okay, now this is your first quiz question: 1. Which of your qualities are the most important ones for you to first identify? If your answer was the character qualities on the top and bottom of the color chart are the most important ones for you to identify first, then you have a perfect score! The Red Zone: If you do not have any of them at the very top in red, give yourself a pat on the back. That is a good thing; however, locate the ones closest to red. Now remember two things: First, the red zone is not a good zone. Second, do not fear the red zone. Take a fearless look at the truth. This is not intended for you to start beating yourself up or putting yourself down over it. Let the facts be the facts without getting your emotions mixed in with them. Be courageous! There is no shame in choosing to do address the issues of your life to become a better person. |